The younger kids went to camp this week, which only left the older boys, Ty and myself. Scary thought, almost.
Ty took Wednesday, Thursday and Friday off, so we almost had an entire week together. What the heck were we thinking?
We went to the coast to do some camping. Packing for two is a whole lot easier that packing for the entire family. Where we camped was real close to where the kids were. We had to pick them up early Saturday morning so being closer to them made sense. We picked up the kids on Saturday morning and drove back home. All of us tired and filthy. Ty and I unpacked and washed clothes. And we had to clean the house since our older boys don't know how to pick up after themselves. Grrrrr!
Ty has been asking me all week if I would go to the clothing optional resort with him on Sunday................. so I did. It is really beautiful there. Sundays aren't that crowded. We went on nature walks, swam in the pool, played shuffleboard, and I read an entire book. Actually being naked is kind of freeing. Ty texted me this morning. He tells me how much he loves me and sends a bunch of hearts.
There is no change in the DD status but I think that he is really trying hard to figure it all out. I am trying to be submissive - but I have never been the best at that anyway.
You're still together and enjoying each other. That's is nothing to be sneezed at - just don't let him off the hook too soon.
ReplyDeleteYep, we are still having fun together. He is a good man he just needs to realize his potential and be able to be the HoH again.
DeleteI agree with Leigh....appreciate, enjoy what you have....but let Him know you want/need more....
ReplyDeletehugs abby
Oh he knows, he keeps telling me how much he wants my trust back and that he is willing to earn it back. Big responsibility to be the HoH around here. But we have four boys and a daughter that are watching and learning
DeleteOh.. does Tinkerbell have a sister? I am glad things are settling down. It's tough. Stick to your guns, while you love and support him
ReplyDeleteWell, he actually calls me Stinkerbell, I know how rude! I try to be submissive and not to sassy but I have a ways to go too. He and I are going to figure this out
DeleteHey Blondie...I have faith in the love and devotion you and Ty have for each other. Happy he is working at getting better and you are working at submission. ;) Sending lots of prayers and positive energy.
ReplyDeleteHugs and Blessings...
Cat
Thanks Cat. I am lucky that he is a good man and willing to listen and learn. Thanks for the all their advice, support, and prayers
DeleteHi Blondie, I'm so happy to hear you and Ty are connecting. Sounds like s great weekend. Glad Ty is making an effort to show you his love and devotion to you.
ReplyDeleteHugs
Roz
Thanks Roz. Just hoping that we will continue to move forward. We have a lot invested in our marriage.
DeleteHi Blondie,
ReplyDeleteI am so glad you were able to spend some time together just enjoying one another's company! I can be hot headed & impulsive at times like Tink but I am trying really hard to keep it to a minimum lol!
I am really impressed that you went to a clothing optional place-I don't know if I could do it I think I would be too self conscious, but I know Clark would love it because when we went on our honeymoon there was an option to go topless & I did do it for a very short time...
Love the txts & call from Ty to you, I will continue to pray for you both.
Love,
Scarlet ; )
Yes, I am sassy but I try to at least listen and follow his lead, the operative word being try. Lol This isn't the first time we have gone to this resort. It is actually not so bad to be nude around others since everyone is naked and no one has a perfect body. I am always surprised by the acceptance and friendliness. We are working on our rules and we are adding some for him too before we start over again.
DeleteIt sounds like you're both cherishing each other, and figuring it all out. That's great.
ReplyDeleteYes, cherishing each other, figuring all out will probably never completely happen. Sometimes he doesn't know what to do with me. Lol
DeleteBlondie,
ReplyDeleteSo happy to read this today, glad you had some time away together. Sounds like Ty is taking responsibility for his role, and is trying to sort everything out. I know it's going to take time to trust again, but I think you're doing great. He loves you, everything else can be worked out. Don't compromise on the things you know need to be changed though, you deserve to be happy too. Good luck with the submission, I'm not good at that either. I think offering your forgiveness, support, and faith in him is pretty submissive though..you're a strong lady :) You two can do this!
Hugs
Thank you so much for your kind words. I agree that giving him my support, forgiveness, and faith is what I need to do. I have to be submissive so he can once again lead. I do trust him or I would never have agreed to this relationship. But right now, he needs to get his head straightened out so he can be the leader again. I am going to be there and support him and he gets it all back together. Thank you for your support
DeleteHi Blondie, glad that you had a better weekend following all the upset. I hope that things improve, I agree with Sunny, don't let him off that hook too early!
ReplyDeletelove Jan,xx
He is such a wonderful guy I am having trouble just forgiving and letting him lead again. I want this relationship but he needs to be able to be the leader, so I will be patient with him. Thanks Jan
DeleteHmm....trying to construct a public comment :) Sometimes being alone together can be the best thing, if the time is right. Sometimes it can be horrible too- if the anticipation for immediate resolution is too great. I think *YOU* are doing wonderfully. I think your attitude is remarkable, and I know that the two of you will find a way to make whatever you wish to work. Your history together has proven that time and time again.
ReplyDeleteMuch love
willie
That is so nice of you to say. Neither of can throw away 24 years of marriage. And neither of us want to stop the DD - it has been wonderful for our marriage. I am lucky to have your and all my blog friends, support and all he has is me and what he reads. Which is how he wants it. Thanks for being my friend
Deleteglad you are enjoying each other's company...hope this leads to more of what you need... hugs
ReplyDeleteHe is fun to be around. A little serious but he balances me out. Thanks for your support
DeleteGlad to see that you and Ty had some fun together, Blondie! :) That is such a good sign. Sounds like Ty is making some efforts. And he notices and voices that he appreciates your giving as well. I agree with the above comments. Take it nice and easy and just enjoy each other. Continue to tell him how you feel. Big hugs sent your way, Blondie!
ReplyDelete<3 Katie