Secrets About Saving Our Marriage

When Ty and I first started our journey with dominance and submission , we didn't know what we were doing. It was a last ditch effort to try and fix our marriage. I had read the Sweet Series, and other similar books, and I was so turned on my the dominant/submissive part of the relationship that I thought maybe we could give, something like that, a try. I couldn't turn everything over to Ty, I didn't trust him and we were just not getting along.
I approached Ty, and told him about what I had been reading. Can we all say "eye roll". What I read, apparently is all fantasy and not something I should expect would happen in the real world. So I needed a new approach.
I told him to pick three things that he would really like me to do, that really bother him, and if I don't do those three things, he can spank me instead of getting mad and sulking,  pouting, ignoring me, arguing...
So Ty's reply was he wanted our bedroom floor picked up, to have no dishes piled up in the sink, and to give him a blow job any time he asked. Done, I said.
What a stupidy head I was. I hated giving blow jobs. And now I have agreed to doing it any time he asked. Dumb, dumb, dumb.
Fast forward three years or so, and here we are today. Lots more rules and expectations and still blow jobs on request. Though he doesn't ask for them as much as he use to when I denied him all the time. I remembered having a couple of friends explain to me how to give a proper blow job. And I am pretty sure that I can claim to be much improved. Still not my favorite thing but it sure makes me happy when I please him. I do have to admit, that in the past three years, I have been spanked for turning him down but I usually had a good reason, at least in my opinion.
And I have been asked or allowed to join the cock worshipping club, even though the members have stopped laughing at me when I ask questions.
So here is a little bit of information I have picked up along the way and found in a great read.

To use the rest of your body.

Girls are often so focused on pleasuring a guy with their mouths that they forget to put their whole bodies (especially hips) into it.

Hands!

If you’re getting really into it, you may forget you have hands. But since you do, use them to stroke his shaft and cup his balls. It will feel good for him, and also allow you to give him the feeling you’re going deeper than you are.

His balls in general.

Girls ignore guys’ balls, but Lord knows why. Suck on them or play with them!

Believe it or not, his penis in general.

Some girls focus on the tip, but remember that there’s a whole penis down there.

Mixing it up.

Do not always approach the blow job in the same way. Surprise him when he comes home from work or when  he first wakes up.

He doesn’t HAVE to finish.

Guys like to use oral sex as foreplay, too — not necessarily as the main event.

Lick the meatus.

Yes — the meatus. That’s the incredibly-sensitive hole on the tip of his penis, and sadly, it’s often ignored. Put medium pressure there with your tongue and he will go wild.

That spot.

The one between his testicles and the base of his penis. Suck lightly on it, it’s very sensitive. And the taint is very sensitive, give it a lick too.

Give him something to do!

(With your nipples.) He shouldn’t just stand there. Have him play with your nipples — stroking or squeezing them, depending on your preference.

Grip the ridge.

When was the last time you paid attention to the ridge of his penis (the place where the tip meets the shaft)? Covering your teeth with your lips, place them around the ridge and apply some pressure, release and repeat.

He wants to check you out.

First of all, be naked. Second of all, if you’re feeling adventurous, do it near a mirror so he can get a total, unhindered view.

Use lots of saliva.

Guys sometimes complain that their partner’s mouth is too dry — and that’s an easy fix. Use your own saliva to keep things really wet. Don’t worry about sloppiness — now is not the time to worry about being a lady.

As for me, oral sex is best when shared. Life is good when we try hard to make the other one happy. I am not saying that it was blowjobs that saved our marriage but that they were a great starting point. Dominance and submission really worked. But all of the other stuff is good for another post.