Answers to My March Questions

Megan Morgan

What is your husband's favorite implement? What is yours?

This is a tough question for us, being that we own a paddle shop and personally own too many to count. But if we had to narrow it down, Ty likes the walnut bath brush one. He likes it because it hits one cheek perfectly and it is thick enough to not be slappy and perfectly heavy enough for me to feel it (really feel it - yikes!). I like the longer, thinner ones, so I would have to say the purpleheart paddle that is about 2 feet long. Being that I have a big bottom, this one covers the entire thing unlike some that are shorter in length and it is kind of like a cane. Probably the leather belt would come in number 2 after the paddles.

 

DelFonte 

Do you have anything in your kinky bucket list you'd like to try?

Funny thing, but Ty and I both had the same idea when I asked him. We want to have another person join us for an evening of hot sex (his words), and we would both like to go to some fetish clubs.

 

an English Rose
I know you have kids, do they know about your dd life, or suspect maybe? Would you encourage them to lead a dd life as they grow up?

Great question! Back when I was really involved with the LDD network, about 2 1/2 years ago, that was a topic we discussed a lot. I think that my kids really don't have any idea about any spankings or punishments. They do understand that I have given him the 51-49% on big decisions and that I refer to him at times when it is something that I would like his input on.

As my kids mature and have real adult relationships, we may drop suggestions about what might help their marriage but the entire DD thing, I don't know. If their marriage was in trouble or they asked us for advice, we would be pretty forthright but not until they are mature enough not to be weirded out. This is such a personal part of my marriage and it is something that really works for us but may not be what they need.

 

Minelle

I know this is a silly---but fun-- question..... oh well. What is your favorite guilty FOOD PLEASURE!

Chocolate is the first thing that popped into my head. But chocolate chip cookie dough and warm, fresh from the oven chocolate chip cookies are probably my pleasure (guilty) food. Love cheesey things too.

 

Jz

Will you tell us something you hope to accomplish in the next year? (kink or vanilla)

Well I am going back to college. It's my turn. I hope to finish up my AA at the community college. I have plenty of units, just need to pick a major and stick with it. So hopefully by the end of the next school year, I will have my AA and will be on my way to finish up and working on my BA. Ty has got to finish college and go back to college and get another degree, three of my kids are in college and the other two are teenagers, so I am ready to do this for myself. I want a law degree. Even if I never get the chance to practice law because I will be retiring in the Bahamas with Ty, I still want that degree.
 

 

Christina

What was the quality about the other that drew you to them?

You could only imagine Ty's answer to that, but I told him that the would answer the next question. He then said that he liked that I was tolerant. Back then, he liked that I accepted him as he was and never tried to change him.

I liked his honesty. He didn't like people who lied and he didn't lie to me (just to get into my pants)
What is your favourite part of the other's body?

Ty is easy, he likes my butt. He will tell you that he married me for two reasons, my blonde hair and my butt.  For me, there is so much I love about his body, but I would say his face. I love his chiseled features and fierce expression that changes into a big smile so easily.
Any regrets in life you would choose to do over if you had the chance?

 I would honestly have to say that I wish that I never allowed myself to get heavier than I should be. It is so hard to lose weight and get toned now and if I had just stayed active, I might have been able to lose that baby weight like I did with the first three.  Ty says that he has no regrets and he never worries about what he could have done.
 

anna

What is the most daft thing you have spanked for or get spanked for?

Ty says that he only spanks me when I need to get spanked...... I don't agree. But I don't remember him spanking me for something that wasn't an established rule, it's just that I don't like the rule about not arguing with the kids. But that is the rule

 

Roz
What is your favourite memory growing up?

 My favorite memory on my 5th birthday, My family drove to Disneyland on my birthday. Every restaurant we stopped, they sang Happy Birthday to me and I always got some kind of cake from the restaurant. That night, when we were in Disneyland, I remember watching the parade and just knowing that this was all for me, for my birthday. Back at the hotel, my mom had actually brought a cake from home, it was a Disney themed cake. It was such a great gift for a five year old. My birthday just happens to be during Christmas vacation....
What is your favourite movie?

Say Anything, Bridesmaids, Greese, Dirty Dancing and Beaches. Sorry, can't narrow it down more than that.

 

ronnie
Do you have a spanking fantasy, a scene that thrills. Does Ty?

Ty would like to spank multiple women at a time (that is what I have deducted from his very long answer). Me,I would be in a place where I was tied up and different doms were spanking, touching, feeling, and almost overstimulationing me. Spanking and pleasure, multiple mind blowing orgasms

What's the sweetest thing Ty has ever done for you?

He learned how to play, Wonderful Tonight (Eric Clapton) on the guitar. Then on our anniversary, he played and sang it to me. I will never forget that moment, ever.

What book are you currently reading?

Calling Invisible Women by Jeanne Ray

 

Clara

If you could plan the perfect day for your spouse, what would their schedule look like?

Sun, sex, and spankings. It would be somewhere private, by the ocean or in the mountains, no kids, no neighbors. Just us. The best part would be that we would have no plans and no worries.
Ty if you want to get Blondie's attention in public what do you say or do?
Ty says that I should just know when he wants my attention. It's always the look. I feel his stare and I can tell what he wants by how he looking at me.

Jennelle

What's you biggest struggle with your dynamic? What is your greatest success?
Favorite flavor of Ice cream?

I will start with the easy question, my favorite flavor is any type of chocolate, the more chocolate the better. Ty likes thin mint. Simple people.

Our greatest success is the improvement of respect towards one another. The more that we do this (our dynamic) the more it becomes natural and not something we have to think to do. He treats me like I am the most important person in the world to him and is always trying to make sure that I am okay. And I,  in return, am always trying to do things that make him happy. Little things that make a big difference.

In the beginning of our DD relationship, it seemed like we started and stopped over and over again. We would try doing things this way or that, based on what we read about what others were doing. Finally, after some good advice, we made relationship work for us. Just getting started was really tough. I am an adult so I don't need him part of everything I do. He still had his job to do and I had mine. He could not have a rule for every little thing I might possibly do. Finally it boiled down to just the 4 D's. Disrespect, Dishonest, Disobey, and Dangerous. The one that I mess up the most is disrespect. Old habits die hard. I have always been a little sassy and smart aleckly. Ty is a stickler with this and I get more quick little spankings than I should. Sorry that it was such a long answer, it is one of those things that I can't simplify too much.

DH

Hi Blondie and Ty! Question for BOTH of you: how has ttwd changed your lives, as a couple and/or personally? :-D

improvement in our marriage. Kind of a broad answer, sorry. There is just less bickering, less stress, and more of a partnership. We are now a united front with our kids. Instead of both of us always trying to be right, I gave him the ultimate say as in he has 51% of the vote, he listens to me about how I feel. No longer are we arguing without listening, both of us trying to be right. The kids can't play us against each other. And things are just more peaceful.
For me, personally, I feel like I trust Ty 100%. He doesn't make me feel stupid and he tries to support my decisions. I finally feel like he is the husband that I always wanted. He is now, for sure, my best friend and my soul mate.
Ty, he says that he feels better being the head of house. He is a natural born leader but raised in the generation we are, he always felt like he had to make sure that he and I were equals. Now that we have this type of relationship, he is now the person he is meant to be. A leader and the one in charge of taking care of us. He thanked me one time for allowing him to feel like a man. I kind of scoffed but he is right. A dominant cannot be a leader if there is no one following him. And as I submit, he steps and can be the role he was meant to be.  He also likes the fact that instead of aruing and holding on to his anger, he can spank me and forgive. It works for us.

SheandHim

Hi Blondie,
Where (environment wise) do you prefer to be spanked?
this one is easy for me to answer. The bedroom. Nowhere else do I feel comfortable with  being spanked. Ty has spanked me in different places but nothing works as well as in the bedroom.