The Movie: Edits & Additions

Well today it is going to be kind of like a personal view point.

Since it's release on Valentines day, the talk is back about 50 Shades of Grey. It seems like one only hears from the people who hate the books. Rarely do you hear someone say that the book was such a powerful eye opener to a different kind of sex.
Nope, you either hear those who find the book offensive, x-rated, smut. And then there are the ones who live the lifestyle (for real) are the ones that are more familiar with the kink. Where do you fall?

Oh and there is the group of people who claim not to like the book because of the poor grammar, incorrect information regarding the buildings, that some really exist, or the highways that are somewhat real but not factual in the book.
Where do you fall in this?

Me, I read the entire series and I can't wait to see the movie. Sure it is all fantasy and it isn't all factual but it's like most fantasy love stories, it's just fiction.

Do you know what target group of people read this book?  Wives between the age of 32-48. Women who could use a little eroticism in their lives. Isn't that why we read books about sex?
A FB friend and high school friend posted the statements from an article she had read. It's all about how the book/movie is evil because of what it teaches society.

This is all fine and dandy because that is what they believe. Who am I to judge their beliefs.

But since this is my blog, I am going to respond to some of their reasons.

1. If you’re good looking, rich, or successful, you can develop a violent sexual appetite and people will be okay with it.  Rich, successful, good looking men are usually how the main characters in the movies are described - and they are easy to look at.  1993, a movie came out called Indecent Proposal. Here we have the main character as the good looking rich guy - we are talking Robert Redford. And he offers a husband and a wife one million dollars to sleep with the wife. How many times have you participated or overheard a conversation about sleeping with Robert Redford for a million dollars. What is this rich man's kink? With a million dollars he can sleep with any unmarried woman. Most people don't even think about that. Why not? Isn't it an odd request, an odd need or want? If the mailman offered me a million dollars to sleep with him, well that would be a probably be a no. Why would I possibly damage my marriage for a man that looks like one of the seven dwarfs?  But frickin Robert Redford, that might be worth it if Ty was aboard. Knowing Ty, he would say okay but insist on videotaping in.

2. Sex is completely for pleasure and all love/romance should be removed from the situation.  Okay, if you want to believe that sex is for procreation and shouldn't be pleasurable, well I feel sorry for you because for me sex is good and even better now that I don't have to worry about getting pregnant. And the women who read the book are already having sex, sooooo.

3. Girls: If you hang around long enough and put up with a guy’s “issues”, eventually he might love you and change. If a girl hangs around long enough and puts up with a guys issues in hope of changing him, well that is an issue. But it is also reality that it happens with or without the movie. Many times people get married in hopes that this commitment will change the relationship, or that if they have a baby it will make things better. Ladies and Gentlemen, the only way a person can change is if they want to do it themselves, you cannot change them and if they try to change for you, it won't be enough. Hopefully, we are already teaching our teens this so they don't fall into this damaging relationship.
Plus give the main character, Ana, a little credit. She didn't want to change him, she wanted to stand by him while he fought his demons and leaned about the safety of love. Plus when she realizes that Christian isn't ready to change, she didn't stick around, hoping that she can make him.

4. Guys: You can do whatever you want to a girl and she’ll just take it because… she’s a girl What, are we in the early 1900's still Guys, expect to get your ass kicked if you assume a girl will do whatever you want because she is a girl. Girls of today may feel trapped in a bad relationship but that does not mean that just because she is a girl, guys can do whatever they want to her. There is something called Date Rape now where boyfriends try to control their girlfriends mentally and physically. But we have taught our daughter to tell someone is their friend is going through this and women are feeling more empowered everyday. But it is wrong and society is speaking up and against this kind of behavior.
Oh, and in the first book and the movie just released, Ana does leave Christian because she can't handle what and who he is.
5. If you put a lot of highly explicit sexual material into a story, people will make it a best seller and it will even be turned into a big budget Hollywood film . Why else would a book about sex be read, if it isn't about sex. Harlequin books have been around forever. Many a fantasy has come from reading these books.  And the movie will never be as explicit or done well as the book. Our fantasies are much better than an actual book.

Now for those who don't like the book because it doesn't accurately portray the BDSM scene, well so complaining and try to look at the positive side.
. Just think if one day I told my friend Carol that Ty and I enjoyed a little spanking within our sex life. She would be aghast. She would not understand that this is just something we enjoy and that it adds a little twist to our sex life. A year later, Carol reads 50 Shades (not telling anyone she is reading this book) and it really peaks her interest.
Maybe I am not as "perverted" as Carol first thought. She decides to mention to her husband about being blindfolded or having her hands tied to the bed. For crying out loud, look what ol' Carol has found to spice up her sex life. When you have been having sex with the same man for the last twenty years and you have no creativity left, a little bondage and a spanking might save their sex life.
Now all of a sudden, people are more interested in the BDSM kink. They might not understand the whole thing but they aren't judging others so harshly. Even if they just scratched the surface of the whole pleasurable kink lifestyle, at least they have had their minds opened. And a little dominance and submission has always added something to our sex life.
There are some old classic books that are much more descriptive and shocking than this movie. Would you watch them if they were made into movies?

Tomorrow, all by myself, I am going to the theaters and watch 50 Shades, the movie

Just a little addition to the whole post....
I am driving my 15 year old son to school this morning. The song "Love Me Like You Do" came on the radio. I said that I really liked this song. He said that he did too but it was getting old because they play it too much on the radio. I said that they were doing that because it was part of the soundtrack to the movie 50 Shades. He looked at me, horrified, and said "You mean that movie about the rapist"?

I hope that you all that are reading this post know that I am not expecting any 15 years olds to be reading it too. I know that there are some very young girls who have read the books. I really don't think that girls that are just hitting puberty or have never had sex should be reading the book. Once again, my opinion.

I did have to defend the book a little because it is not about rape. There isn't even coercion. My son just couldn't fathom that tying a girl to the headboard would be anything but rape. I decided to keep my mouth shut and let him keep believing that. His time will come some day, and he may or may not be introduced to anything different than the old missionary style. But for now, let him stay obliviously innocent.