More Information on my Adoption Story

If you have been reading my blog for awhile, you probably know that I am adopted. And you would know that I located my biological mother. I have also been keeping in touch with her through email and now some texting. And that we have met once. All of the nervousness and craziness that I have felt, I have shared here on my blog. Now the story continues.

My mom always asks me if I have spoken to "Cathy" (my bio mom) when we speak. It finally dawned on me that my mom was worried. She says she is only worried that I might get hurt but I have a feeling there is more to it than that. I finally told my mom, "look you are my mom, there is no one else that can take your place. I don't need Cathy, I need you". She is my mom. Period.Now my mom doesn't seem to ask anymore. It's got to be hard for the moms who adopt. But my mom, is my "real" mom and I want her to know that. My dad too, he needs to know that he is my dad, my only dad.

Now that doesn't mean that I don't care, or possibly love, Cathy. She has given my parents and me the greatest gift of love. And she did so unselfishly. The only issue with Cathy is that she has never told her loved ones about me. They do not know that she gave up a child when she was sixteen. She never even told her, now deceased, husband. Brothers, sisters, daughters, nobody knows. Someday, she might but today is not the day. It's all good.

Why am I writing about adoption today? Let me back up about a week.......

My cell phone rang and Cathy's name showed up on the caller I.D.  Strange, yes. We have only spoken on the phone once or twice and that was when we were meeting up and we were trying to find each other, in a very small town (lol).
Cathy told me that my bio dad had reached out to her via FB. I asked her if she was okay and how she felt about him contacting her.. and she said she was okay. "Tim" asked if she remembered him but never said anything about me. He didn't even leave anyway to contact him. It was surreal for both of us. I am glad that we are at the point in our relationship that we can kind of joke around with each other because neither of us really knew what to say about it. Together, we checked him out on FB. There was a picture and Cathy said that the picture was him. The site hadn't been updated for a couple of years so that left us with little information. And for me, unfortunately he had sunglasses on, so I didn't really know what he looked like. But there is a picture and a human being. WOW!

Do you know how much it costs to hire a private investigator. Well it costs enough that finding my bio dad was not going to happen that way. Geez, forget being a lawyer, I want to be a PI. I did send him a friend request and a message but that was about all I could do right now.

Is that it? Nope, the story continues.

He accepts my friend request and update his FB page. I texted Cathy and told her. Then she tells me that the two of them have been messaging each other. What? She hadn't mentioned me yet and he hadn't either. Cathy asked if I wanted her to mention me and I said yes. She said that they were going to talk on the phone that night (last night). Holy cow!

This morning, I have a message from him and he wants to get to know me. Can you hear how loud my heart is beating right now? I will let you all know when something happens. I just wanted to share this news with all of you.

Tim & Cathy are not their real names, I just made them up. Not very creative but writing Antoinette or Maximilian seemed a little tedious.